Why Saying “No” Can Be The Best Thing You Can Do For Yourself

Why Saying “No” Can Be The Best Thing You Can Do For Yourself

How do you start and decide when to stop taking things on? When do you say, “enough is enough,” and you’ve reached your max? 

In the video above, I share several tips to help you avoid that feeling of burnout and learn how to confidently say, “no.” 

If you’re ready to learn more, read on.

“Saying ‘yes’ to one thing means saying ‘no’ to something else.”

The above statement is a quote I hear so often, and it couldn’t be more true.

When you say ‘yes’ to everything, what’s the chance of you doing a good job on everything? Very unlikely.

Agreeing to take too much on your plate could potentially lead to serious burnout.

It’s a time struggle — you only have so much of it. It’s impossible to do everything – and even more impossible to do everything well. 

When you say yes to something, keep in mind that it means closing the door to something else – which is absolutely okay. 

Life is full of choices, and the choices you make lead you down your life path (which is different for everyone)! These choices make you – you.

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When You Say “Yes,” You’re Trading In Your Time & Effort 

Can you handle more on your plate? Will you have to give up something else that you enjoy?

What opportunity does this offer to you and your life? What are the pros and the cons?

And the most critical question to ask yourself; do you want to do what you’re being asked to do? Is it going to take away from more important things in your life — bigger priorities? 

It’s about stress management and self-care. You want to truly be able to enjoy your life.

But if your life is filled with things you said ‘yes’ to – but don’t really want to do (or don’t really fulfill you), you aren’t really living a Level 10 Life.

Below are a few tell-tale signs of overwhelm and an incessant desire to always say “Yes”…

1. You never have enough time for the things that make you happy.


We all go through busy seasons. You may have a couple weeks where you just don’t have a chance to sit down. That’s life. 

But if those busy seasons happen more often than not, you might be headed straight for a brick wall called “burnout.”

If this sounds like your life, you need to focus on setting boundaries. Saying ‘no’ won’t make you a jerk. In fact, it makes you responsible and more reliable! And you need to take responsibility for your own life and your goals.

Narrowing down that “to-do” list and removing things that don’t serve you or make you happy is the first step to living life on your terms. 

Once you identify the things that are most important to you and eliminate the things that aren’t, you free yourself up to achieve the success you’ve been searching for. 

 2. You’re worried about the future instead of being focused on the present. 


Let’s get to the root of what overwhelm is.

Overwhelm is the experience of fear, and fear is the feeling that there is not enough. Not enough time, enough resources, enough money, or a fear that if you don’t try to do it all, you may miss that big break. 

That fear is why overwhelm always feels bad. You may feel pressure, stress, or anxiety, but at the end of the day, it all boils down to fear.

So, how do you overcome that fear or limiting belief?

You could cut down on the to-do list. But in my experience, fear has so little to do with the things we’re doing, and so much more to do with our way of thinking

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In order to manage your fear, you have to learn to manage your mind. 

That means every time you have a fear that’s causing you stress or holding you back, I want you to tell yourself, “That’s not helpful. I’m going to believe or think of something else.”

Then, take a moment to reframe it. For example, take the fear I mentioned earlier: “If I don’t take on this task at work, my boss won’t think I’m qualified.”

Stop and think: Where did that come from? Did it come from other people? Is it based on what other people think? Is it true? 

Bottomline:

Fear is merely the anticipation of pain. That said, you have the choice to let it go and believe something else.

Why would you want to cut yourself off from being successful now just because you’re worried about something that might happen in the future?

I always say, “Why don’t we just cross that bridge when we get there? How about you become super successful now, and worry about any problems as they come up?”

Once you stop worrying about what’s going to happen in the future and start living in the moment, you’ll be amazed at how much progress you make in a short time.

While your fear may not go away, reassurance can help train your mind for handling this emotion in a more productive way.

The next time fear stops you in your tracks, you’ll be better prepared to realize that you can manage whatever comes your way. You’ll know that the worst-case scenario created by that fear simply isn’t going to happen.


In order to manage your fear, learn to manage your mind. Every time you have a fear that causes you stress or is holding you back, tell yourself, ‘That’s not helpful. I’m going to believe or think of something else.’
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How to Master Your Fear and Create Your Ultimate Life

So by now, you’re probably wondering how to start mastering your fear so you can create your ultimate life.

There are 3 essential keys to overcoming fear: awareness, understanding, and reconditioning or rewiring.

You have to recognize what you’re afraid of, confront it, and then change your thoughts and emotional reactions. Well, you’re certainly aware now, and you have a better understanding of fear. What’s left is rewiring. And  in order to rewire yourself around fear, and truly start living the life you want, you need to do two things:

1. You need to change the way you react to your thoughts.

2. You need to get in touch with what your ultimate life actually looks like.

You can’t really go anywhere if you don’t know where you’re headed, can you? You don’t just wander around hoping to get somewhere! You need a goal destination. Once you know where you’re going, then you can plan it out and take action!

Once you stop worrying about what’s going to happen in the future and start living in the moment, you’ll be amazed at how much progress you make in a short time.


You can’t really go anywhere if you don’t know where you’re headed, can you? You don’t just wander around hoping to get somewhere! You need a goal destination. Once you know where you’re going, then you can…
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  • Increase your inner strength and confidence to take on any challenge that stands in the way of reaching your peak potential
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